Focus on the Positive, the Rest Will Fall Into Place

Life sure keeps me on my toes. Things were going by so smoothly and effortlessly, then BAM! life happens. After spending a restless night trying to solve the problems in my head and an interesting morning filled with more drama, I am still no closer to a solution than I was 36 hours ago when this all began. 


To be blunt, it really sucks that there is NOTHING I can do to solve the problems. It sucks that part of my life that used to bring me such fulfillment now hangs over me like a rain cloud. It sucks when people refuse to respect or appreciate the people that would do and give anything to see them succeed. After spending hours trying to find an answer to the problems I am faced with, I've realized there is nothing I can do but pray and stay out of it to let time take its course. There is nothing I can say or do to change the minds of the parties involved, I will just pray and put my energy elsewhere.


Since I can't solve all the problems that will arise in my life, the next best thing is finding a way to deal with it: Its better to focus on the things in life that are going great and put my energy into that rather than waste it on problems with no absolution in sight. 

 Remembering the moment this photo was taken still makes my heart flutter!

I am blessed with an amazing family!

I couldn't have more understanding, patient, and dependable friends!

I wish I had a good picture to post of my parents, but they are included too. I am one lucky girl! I would be wasting my time and energy if I spent one moment worrying about problems that can't be solved. I look at all the things going right in my life and that makes me happy. There will always be problems so why should I spent my time being miserable and stressed?

So right now I am going to spend some time with Little Miss and watch Elmo (her current obsession), go to spin class later today, and enjoy a quiet night at home while Hubs had duty!

 

 

Can We Keep the Drama to a Minimum Please?

My dad has always taught me to find the good in every situation and to look for the good in a person no matter how badly they have acted. My Hubs does the same thing. Ladies, has your mother ever told you that you married someone just like you father? Since I am far away from my dad and I can't solicit advice from him everyday, Hubs has filled in adequately and always gives me great advice. He is especially good when it comes to the unnecessary drama that milispouses can create. His ship just pulled away yesterday and already he has taken the time to give me advice and guide me down the right path. But he didn't say I shouldn't blog about it! Muahahaha...

I just don't understand why of all days people would try to stir the drama pot on deployment day! We should all be supporting each other, especially on deployment day. I know it is impossible for everyone to like each other. There are over 5,000 sailors on the ship and that makes for many different personalities. But just because you don't have the same interests or even hang out doesn't mean we all can't support each other in this situation. We are all navy wives going through a deployment. Come on guys where is the love? Part of me is bothered that I am blogging about this. The ongoing drama isn't affecting me personally because I am not letting it. I am just concerned about how this affects the other spouses. I guess that is why I am putting this out there.
 
I am the type of person that wants to know why things work. This is why I am horrible at abstract things, like geometry and calculus and physics. Why is there gravity? There just is. Don't even get me started on limits and all that infinity stuff. The point is I want to know how things work, especially people. I loved developmental psychology when I was in college and I wish I could have studied further into it. It really helps you understand what makes someone tick. I have been trying to wrap my head around why some people see the need to cause drama. Are they that unhappy in their lives that they feel the need to make others just as miserable as they are? If that is the case, I don't harbor any ill will towards them. I actually feel sorry for them. Life can really suck sometimes. Bad things happen to good people for no reasonable explanation. If you don't have people there for you that have your best interests in mind, I can see how that can create bitterness and unhappiness. They need to surround themselves with positive people that will help them during their time of need. Everyone needs a support group, especially spouses separated because of deployment. It doesn't matter if its the FRG, a church group, a play group, or family! Everybody needs somebody sometimes.

Today, Hubs reminded me that every one of the people involved is going through this deployment and needs someone there for support. He reminded me that everyone likes company even if its just idle chat to keep your mind off things. Damn he's good isn't he? He thinks I need to just keep trying to "kill them with kindness". Well not really cause them physical harm but I need to just keep "extending the olive branch" (don't you love all the quotes?) Also the Hubs knows that I am a bit different and I get some sort of high when I am able to help someone out. Like if someone calls me just to rant or invites me over because they need a shoulder to cry on, I thrive on that sort of stuff. It actually makes me feel like superwoman, like I could carry everyone's problems on my shoulders so no one would feel any pain. Wouldn't that be amazing? 

So I am going to keep following Hubs advice because it hasn't failed me yet, well not that I can recall at least! Be sure to enter in my first giveaway, it ends Thursday Jan. 20th at midnight!